{"product_id":"the-parts-within-us-paperback","title":"The Parts Within Us - Paperback","description":"\u003cp\u003eby \u003cb\u003eJohn Graham\u003c\/b\u003e (Author)\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhat if the parts of ourselves we struggle with are not the enemy, but are trying to protect us?\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003eThe Parts Within Us\u003c\/em\u003e is a gentle introduction to IFS-informed therapy and parts work, written for counsellors, psychotherapists, people in recovery and anyone interested in understanding their inner world with more compassion.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDrawing on Internal Family Systems ideas, person-centred values, psychodynamic thinking, recovery and clinical experience, John Graham explores how different parts of us can develop protective roles in response to fear, shame, trauma, loneliness, attachment difficulties and emotional pain.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe book introduces the three main categories of parts often described in IFS: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eManagers, who try to keep life under control\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFirefighters, who react quickly when pain feels overwhelming\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eExiles, who often carry younger wounds, fear, shame and vulnerability\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cp\u003eIt also explores the qualities associated with Self, including the 8 Cs: Calm, Curiosity, Compassion, Clarity, Confidence, Courage, Connectedness and Creativity, alongside the 5 Ps: Presence, Patience, Perspective, Persistence and Playfulness.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eA practical focus of the book is the 6 Fs approach: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eFind, Focus, Flesh Out, Feel Toward, Befriend and Fears\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThese steps can help people begin identifying, understanding and mapping their inner parts without treating them as problems to be eliminated.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe book explores: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ehow protective parts develop\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eunblending and creating space from intense emotions\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003einner critics, shame and self-judgement\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eanxiety and social anxiety\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eaddiction and compulsive behaviour\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003etrauma and the importance of pacing\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eattachment and inner security\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ecouples and relationship patterns\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eworking collaboratively with parts maps\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003espirituality and Self-leadership\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eusing journals, drawings, apps and technology to support parts work\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ethe use of tools such as ChatGPT and the IFS Guide app alongside therapeutic work\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe approach throughout is compassionate and practical. Parts are not viewed as defective. Even behaviours that become destructive may have begun as attempts to protect the person from something that once felt unbearable.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eJohn Graham writes from an \u003cstrong\u003eIFS-informed\u003c\/strong\u003e perspective. He has completed the IFS Institute's six-month IFS Online Circle, but has not completed official IFS Level 1, Level 2 or Level 3 training and does not present himself as an IFS-certified therapist. The book therefore encourages appropriate caution, especially when working with trauma and deeply vulnerable exiled parts.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWritten for therapists, addiction counsellors, people in recovery and readers interested in parts work, \u003cem\u003eThe Parts Within Us\u003c\/em\u003e offers an accessible way of understanding inner conflict, protection and healing.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eWhen we stop fighting our parts and begin listening to them, something inside us can start to change.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n            \u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eNumber of Pages:\u003c\/strong\u003e 368\u003c\/div\u003e\n            \u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eDimensions:\u003c\/strong\u003e 0.76 x 9 x 6 IN\u003c\/div\u003e\n            \u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePublication Date:\u003c\/strong\u003e October 20, 2026\u003c\/div\u003e\n            ","brand":"BooksCloud","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":67869747675294,"sku":"9781911812043","price":25.34,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0705\/7748\/8030\/files\/AlbrvP3JpW9781911812043.webp?v=1793314648","url":"https:\/\/theword.com\/products\/the-parts-within-us-paperback","provider":"TheWord.com","version":"1.0","type":"link"}